All my wife wants is for her torture to end - dying is the only way: ... trends now

All my wife wants is for her torture to end - dying is the only way: ... trends now
All my wife wants is for her torture to end - dying is the only way: ... trends now

All my wife wants is for her torture to end - dying is the only way: ... trends now

Stuart May is living every husband's worst nightmare. 

As the 35-year-old decorates the family home for Christmas, he faces the heartbreaking prospect of driving his bed-ridden wife 800 miles to Switzerland to end her 'torture'.

For mother-of-four Kelly Louise has spent the last 18 months battling a long Covid 'death sentence' that has left her 'imprisoned' in a dark room in constant agony and unable to care for her children.

Mrs Smith-May's condition started to gradually deteriorate after she caught Covid in December 2021.

So much so that the 39-year-old, from Chipping Sodbury, Gloucestershire, has now 'reached the point where dying would end her suffering'. 

Kelly Louise Smith-May, 39, from Chipping Sodbury in Gloucestershire, is seeking £10,000 to travel to an assisted dying facility 'to end her suffering'

Kelly Louise Smith-May, 39, from Chipping Sodbury in Gloucestershire, is seeking £10,000 to travel to an assisted dying facility 'to end her suffering'

Stuart May, husband to a wife who wants to travel to Switzerland for an assisted death, has shared his heartbreaking account of the 'torture' his wife his suffering

Stuart May, husband to a wife who wants to travel to Switzerland for an assisted death, has shared his heartbreaking account of the 'torture' his wife his suffering

She is no longer able to look after her children ¿ Kai, Tawny, Zayn, and Jett ¿ 'whom she absolutely adores with every piece of her heart'

She is no longer able to look after her children — Kai, Tawny, Zayn, and Jett — 'whom she absolutely adores with every piece of her heart'

After a loved one launched a £10,000 fundraiser to finally end her 'torture', Mr May shared his heartbreaking account of how they have come to this decision. 

Speaking to MailOnline from his home, Mr May — who has become his wife of eight year's full-time carer, quitting his job as a digger driver in order to do so — said they wanted to make the most of what might be their last Christmas together.

Mr May said: 'I had no choice but to give up work and step in and do absolutely everything.

'People say we’ve got a lovely home but that’s all the stuff we had when Kelly was fit and well.

'Kelly was very house proud, she wanted the best for her children like any mum.

What is the current law on assisted dying in the UK?

In England, Wales and Northern Ireland helping someone to take their own life is punishable with up to 14 years in prison.

While no specific law exists in Scotland helping someone end their own life could lead to to prosecution for culpable homicide.

This, in theory, includes helping someone go through assisted dying overseas.

Charities say the current system leaves terminally ill Brits with little choice but to pay thousands to go overseas for their death.

They also warned that those who can't afford to travel are deciding to take their lives at home, sometimes in pain, compared to a medically assisted death.

UK charities currently estimated that one Brit travels overseas for assisted dying every eight days.

There are currently proposals to change the law in some parts of the UK.

Last September in Scotland, Liberal Democrat MSP Liam McArthur lodged the final proposal to introduce a Member's Bill which would legalise assisted dying for people who are terminally ill, though no date has been given yet for when this might be considered. 

A public consultation on a Private Member's Bill on assisted dying closed on the Isle of Man at the end of January.

A consultation on assisted dying proposals also took place in Jersey between October 2022 and January and publication of a consultation feedback report is expected in April.

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'But for more than 18 months she’s been bed bound - I wash her hair once a month and I have to turn her over. She’s in so much pain.'

Mr May said his wife was diagnosed with long Covid shortly catching the virus nearly two years ago.

She was, it is claimed, later diagnosed with chronic fatigue syndrome, also known as myalgic encephalomyelitis (ME).

Long Covid, a poorly-understood phenomenon, can leave sufferers with a persistent cough, fatigue, muscle aches and loss of smell. While many long Covid sufferers find their symptoms eventually fade, some, just like Kelly, experience them for months or even years. 

But, although unable to prove it, Mr May believes the Covid vaccine, which his wife received in April 2022, exacerbated her symptoms. 

'I know it’s difficult to prove,' he said.

'At first doctors said it was psychological, then she was diagnosed with long Covid. 

'After they said it was chronic fatigue and ME but they didn’t know which because the symptoms are the same.'

There is no scientific evidence the jab is responsible for Kelly's condition or if the timing was a coincidence. 

Regardless of the trigger, Mr May said the process of getting his wife help has been a terrible ordeal.  

'Kelly has been let down by doctors for the last two years and now she has reached the point where dying would end her suffering,' he said. 

To start with, Mr May claims his mother-in-law helped with the couple’s four children, aged 22 (Kai), 16 (Tawny), nine (Zayn) and six (Jett).

When it became too much for her, he quit his job as a digger driver to stay at home to care for his wife and children.

The family car was on finance and had to be returned and for the first time the family had to rely on benefits.

Mr May said that, at first, the GP didn’t believe Kelly was ill and 'tried to fob her off with the mental health team'.

He said: 'They made out she was lying. They said cancer patients could get themselves to the surgery so Kelly should be able to.

'The doctors treated her badly, they were ignoring what she was telling them when she was in so much agony she couldn’t get off the bed.

'They wanted her to go into respite care for two weeks but it was a place where you had to do your own cooking and look after yourself. Kelly wasn’t able to do any of those things.

'Every doctor we’ve had come round here has not really believed her. All the health professionals who have seen her don’t give a toss.'

Mrs Smith-May, once a bubbly, loud and creative person, hasn’t left her bedroom at the couple’s three-bedroomed house since June last year.

Mr May said: 'The health service has left her like a dying dog. She’s been left to suffer, a doctor comes out every few weeks but we are not getting anywhere.

'The blinds are down, she has no TV, there’s just an

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