By Charlie Coë For Daily Mail Australia
Published: 17:15 BST, 27 September 2020 | Updated: 17:23 BST, 27 September 2020
April Wilmot (pictured) narrowly escaped after her former partner set her mother's home on fire while she was inside with her family
A brave domestic violence survivor has told how her ex-partner tried to massacre her family by ramming his BMW into her mother's home before killing himself as he set the house on fire.
Father-of-four and unemployed banker Neil de Graaf, 37, crashed his car into the home in Ipswich, south-east Queensland, in November 2016 while his former partner April Wilmot, then 23, was inside.
De Graaf used jerry cans and a gas bottle to splash fire accelerant around the home and set it alight.
Ms Wilmot, her mother, her teenage brother and his girlfriend barricaded themselves in a bathroom and escaped with minor injuries - but her ex-partner suffered burns to 95 per cent of his body and died in hospital the next day.
Almost four years later, the young woman has revealed how in the hours leading up to the attack she had been pleading with him to take down photos he claimed were of her on a revenge porn website.
She said she had not seen him for a year after breaking up with him, but was drawn back in after being told by a mutual friend of theirs De Graaf was having a hard time.
De Graaf that day had posted a sexual