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A British security guard who ran off with the Ukrainian refugee he gave a home to has said sorry to the former partner he ditched for his affair.
But Lorna Garnett, 28, said a reconciliation with the father of her two daughters, Tony, was not on the cards after he dumped his new lover.
She spoke out as she talked things over with Tony, 30, for the first time since he walked out on her to be with Sofiia Karkadym, 22, after she fled Ukraine and moved in with them.
In an exclusive interview with MailOnline, she also accused Sofiia of flirting with Tony during the ten days they all lived together.
She said: 'I do love him, I respect him, he is the father of our beautiful daughters. But there is too much water under the bridge now.
'We will always be friends and the best parents we can be to our girls, but I'll be happy for him if he had a proper new relationship and I'm sure he'll be happy if that happens for me.
'Right now I am trying to recover from this whole thing and understand how I let this woman into my house.'
Tony Garnett, 30, left the mother of his two children, 28-year-old Lorna Garnett (pictured), for Ukrainian refugee Sofiia Karkadym after 10 days. He has now broken up with Sofiia, but Lorna said she 'wouldn't have him back in a million years'
Lorna told MailOnline she still 'loves and respects' Tony, but has ruled out ever getting back together with him
Tony Garnett, 30, left his partner for Ukrainian refugee Sofiia Karkadym, 22, after 10 days of her living with them
Sofiia Karkadym is arrested by police after trying to kick down the front door of her British lover who dumped her. She told the MailOnline she is 'lost' and still had feelings for Tony
Tony Garnett at his Bradford home with his ex-girlfriend's luggage and belongings in bin liners waiting to be collected
Lorna revealed she was prescribed anti-depressants in the aftermath of her relationship breaking down
Speaking of her anguish after their split, she added: 'This has affected my mental health. As soon as the kids were in bed and asleep, I just sat here and cried and cried.
'I had been strong for the kids until they were asleep and then I'd break down and it's been like that every night.
'I hardly ever slept. I would always think about why he has done it and why she has done it.
'I began to ask questions about myself, things like whether I'd put on weight since I'd had the babies.
'I realised that we hardly ever went out together because of the children.
'There were no such things like date nights or time for ourselves and I wondered if I had just got boring for him.
'I went to the doctors because I thought maybe it was me who was mentally on stable.
'It really got to me. I was over-thinking things and I was prescribed the anti-depressant Sertraline.
'I was on it for two days and then I stopped taking them because we were on the front pages and I realised I wasn't being irrational, and what I have seen was the truth.
'He had left me for her and it was all put into perspective. The first articles said that Sofi had said that she had fancied him the first time she had seen him at the airport.
'She said that she could see how unhappy he was at home and that she felt sorry for him.
'Sofiia was just saying that. We never discussed our relationship with her at any time at all. There was no reason to believe that we were unhappy to be honest.'
Tony moved out with Sofiia in May this year just ten days after she moved into live with him and his partner of nearly ten years Lorna at their home in Bradford, West Yorkshire.
He ended his four-month relationship with her after a furious bust-up last Saturday when she allegedly used a knife to stab the wall of their rented home in Bradford.
She was arrested and taken away by police who warned her not to go back to the property.
But MailOnline told exclusively yesterday how Sofiia went back to the cottage they used to share and kicked the door on Monday evening while screaming: 'Tony, I love you'.
Police were called again by neighbours and she fled by jumping over a wall before officers found her hiding under a nearby hedge and arrested her for a second time, but she was released without charge.
Tony was able to meet up with Lorna and told her, 'I am sorry' after she contacted her lawyers to ask a judge to lift a 'non-molestation' order granted to her against him.
Lorna said her torment had been increased by other parents talking about her break-up with Tony at the school gates in front of her two daughters, aged six and three.
She said: 'They would say things like, 'Look it's her whose man has gone off with so-and-so'.
'People would say things like they hoped I wouldn't take him back and stuff like that and the kids are stood right next to me, and although they are very young, they're very smart and pick up a lot of things easily. I worried how it might affect them too.
'They would ask me "Where is daddy mummy, what has daddy done?"
Sofiia Karkadym (pictured) arrived in the UK at the start of May after fleeing the war in Ukraine
The couple were making plans to visit Sofiia's family back in Ukraine so that Tony can formally ask her father for his daughter's hand in marriage. Tony has said their relationship is over
Tony dumped Sofiaa after accusing her of not being able to handle alcohol and using a knife to damage a wall at their rented home in Bradford (pictured)
'It hasn't been easy for them either and I'm hoping that now Tony has seen some sense and left her, things will all die down.
'But nothing can prepare you for being on the front pages of newspapers. It was a massive shock that Tony left and then you have to deal with it being national news.
'I was brought up old-fashioned. I'm the sort of woman who insures that her man's tea is on the table when he comes home from work and I look after the bairns.
'I had a quiet life until Sofiia came along and now everything has changed. It's not good.'
Lorna was initially impressed with the young Ukrainian refugee when she arrived at their home after Tony had picked her up from Manchester Airport.
She said: 'She were lovely and sweet. The first thing she did when she jumped out the car was to come and give me a cuddle.
'She started crying and I started crying because it were nice, something nice to do.
'I took her out shopping and bought her everything she needed feminine wise.
'And a couple of days later, I took her out to Primark and bought her loads of clothes because she had absolutely nothing.
'She was proper chuffed and happy. And we became friends. She taught me how to cook some Ukrainian dishes, like dumplings.'
Lorna said she first noticed what she described as 'strange behaviour' when Sofiia would smarten herself up just before Tony would arrive home from his job as a hospital security guard.
She said: 'She would lounge around all day in her dressing gown or hoodie and then just before Tony came in, she would change into smart clothes and put all her make up on.
'She was very flirty with him and at first I thought she was just being young and friendly, but then after a few days I realised she had her eyes set on him.
'I knew something was wrong. Call it a woman's instinct if you like. I knew she was trying to come onto him.
'And then during the daytime when he was at work, she stopped talking to me. I began to realise she saw me as her rival. I knew then that she fancied him.
'But I would never have imagined that Tony would have left me and his daughters and not just for her, but for anybody.
'It is just not him. He's not like that. He's a fantastic father and has been very good to me. It was a total shock.
'But she turned his head. When he would come home from work she was all full of joy and would say things like "Oh Tony, oh Tony" to him.
'She would tell him that she was making his tea that night, but I already made the food. It did annoy me because she had seen me cooking. It was a red flag.'
Lorna said that another wake-up call for her was on the first Sunday, a few days after the Ukrainian
