Lilie James death exposes huge Australian problem as the horrors going on ... trends now

'Because it works. I feel like a man when I'm hurting people.'

These are just some of the reasons men say they hurt the women they love the most, as chilling statistics reveal a deepening national crisis in Australia. 

Five women are killed in domestic homicide incidents every ten days, with seven women allegedly murdered by former or current partners in October alone.

So far this year, forty-three women have died in acts of violence, with their deaths a heavy reminder that domestic violence does not discriminate.

These include Sydney woman Lilie James 21, was bashed to death by a former partner after she ended their brief five-week relationship last Wednesday. 

Paul Thijssen, 24, is believed to have used a hammer to kill Ms James in the gym bathroom at St Andrew's Cathedral School in Sydney's CBD.

Several hours later, Thijssen phoned police to confess before plunging to his death from the cliffs above Diamond Bay in Vaucluse in the eastern suburbs. 

On Sunday night, mother-of-four Logee Osias, 46, was allegedly stabbed to death by her ex-boyfriend, 44, in her home in Bendigo in Victoria.

Two of her children, a six-year-old and nine-year-old girl, were inside the Kangaroo Flat home during the alleged attack - with one calling triple zero. 

Police arrested Ms Osias's ex-boyfriend, who remains in hospital under police guard, after he was found in a reservoir near the home. 

Less than 24 hours later, the body of family law barrister Alice McShera, 34, was found at Crown Towers Perth, Burswood, on Monday. 

Her partner Cameron John Pearson, 42, was found in the same luxury hotel room on Monday morning and charged with Ms McShera's murder.

Sydney University Professor Susan Heward-Belle, a recognised leader in domestic and family violence research, said it boiled down to men feeling entitled to use controlling and coercive behaviours with their intimate partners.

She spoke to a series of perpetrators of domestic violence that had been mandated to attend an anger management program.

It was in these interviews that she heard a series of chilling justifications for violence against women - that 'it works' and made men feel in control.

Prof Herward-Belle said men who benefited from a climate of fear and manipulation often found it hard to manage 'big emotions' when it came to their relationship.

In extreme cases of domestic homicide, men are exerting one final act of control by ending the life of their current or former partner and sometimes even their children.

Brisbane woman Hannah Clarke and her three children, Aaliyah, Laianah and Trey, were killed by her ex-husband in a quadruple murder-suicide in February 2020.

Rowan Baxter doused Hannah and their children in petrol and set them alight in their family car before stabbing himself in the chest in a premeditated attack.

The final act of violence came after Baxter became increasingly paranoid and suspicious about his estranged wife, with an inquest told the gym junkie was a hot head who spoke down to Hannah and expected sex every day.

'Just because someone breaks up with you, that does not mean you are authorised to kill them,' Prof Heward-Belle told Daily Mail Australia.

'Men have to learn there's healthy ways of being a man. Toxic masculinity where men need to act tough seems to be a popular way to perform masculinity in Australia.'

She said when a former or current partner killed women they had usually been subjected to 'relentless' domestic and family violence before their deaths.

'It's not always that men lash out in a fit of rage. It's just one part of an extreme set of behaviours designed to exert power and control,' Prof Heward-Belle said.

'Women who live with violence can be at a higher risk when they assert themselves and want to leave and end the relationship.

'Men think 'how dare you hurt me, how dare you leave me'.'

The NSW Government this week announced that the Women's Safety Commissioner would become a stand-alone role, making NSW the first state in Australia to have a stand-alone commissioner dedicated to addressing violence against women.

Dr Tonkin told Daily Mail Australia she was 'devastated' by the rising number of women killed in domestic violence incidents in the past two weeks. 

In her role as commissioner, she will focus efforts on primary prevention and early intervention of violence as well as amplifying the voices of victims.

'Primary prevention is about stopping domestic violence before it occurs and investing in education and awareness raising,' Dr Tonkin said. 

'It's also about promoting respectful relationships and giving children age-appropriate education about respectful behaviour.'

Early intervention is about identifying those at risk of experiencing or perpetuating violence and intervening early to provide support and change their trajectory, Dr Tonkin said. 

She said men held a key role in their communities in helping address disrespectful behaviour towards women and being good role models. 

'They can call out sexist remarks, model and talk about how to have respectful relationships with women and promote gender equality,' she said. 

A troubling report from the Australian Institute of Family Studies (AIFS) found that almost a third of 18 and 19-year-olds had experienced emotional abuse, physical violence or sexual abuse from a partner in the previous year.

'It's really important that we talk about these issues with young people and teenagers,' Dr Tonkin said. 

'We need to talk about what is a healthy and respectful relationships so they have the language to discuss these issues and know when to get help.'

Melissa Perry, CEO of White Ribbon Australia, has

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