Popular LA 'ethical' butcher Jered Standing's ex-girlfriend speaks out after ... trends now

Popular LA 'ethical' butcher Jered Standing's ex-girlfriend speaks out after ... trends now
Popular LA 'ethical' butcher Jered Standing's ex-girlfriend speaks out after ... trends now

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Former partners and close friends of beloved Los Angeles ethical butcher Jered Standing are sharing their grief after the 44-year-old hanged himself last week.

In an exclusive interview with DailyMail.com, his ex-girlfriend Katie Sobelman described Standing's unrelenting dedication to his craft, his sensitive Lord of the Rings-loving side, and his struggle to come to terms with his father's passing years earlier.

His writer friend Stephanie Hughes also described how the 'last few months kicked his a** with stress' – though she thought he could see the light on the other end.

The locally famous Hancock Park butcher was heavily tattooed and often photographed scowling with raw carcasses and razor-sharp knives.

But those who knew him spoke of a compassionate, warm-hearted and mirthful man who inspired thousands to make more ethical choices with their meat-eating. 

LA-based butcher Jered Standing's former girlfriend and close friends are mourning the loss of the popular meat merchant after his shock suicide last week

LA-based butcher Jered Standing's former girlfriend and close friends are mourning the loss of the popular meat merchant after his shock suicide last week 

In an emotional interview with DailyMail.com Katie Sobelman spoke fondly of former boyfriend Jered Standing's 'infectious' drive, 'secretly nerdy' side, and revealed he had been struggling to come to term's with his father's death

In an emotional interview with DailyMail.com Katie Sobelman spoke fondly of former boyfriend Jered Standing's 'infectious' drive, 'secretly nerdy' side, and revealed he had been struggling to come to term's with his father's death 

The 44-year-old butcher championed animal welfare and ethical meat sourcing. Standing (pictured) opened his butchery in 2017, which has since become one of the most popular butcher shops in LA

The 44-year-old butcher championed animal welfare and ethical meat sourcing. Standing (pictured) opened his butchery in 2017, which has since become one of the most popular butcher shops in LA

Sobelman, 38, told DailyMail.com that Standing's life wasn't always about steak.

She said when she met him at a Los Feliz bar in 2012, he was a vegetarian book store worker, with a need for a rental deposit and a direction in life.

Jered had just moved back to LA after living for years in a building site of a house in the remote, tiny town of Bisbee, Arizona.

'It was down to the studs. He was living in this construction zone in the middle of the desert in this small town by himself,' Sobelman said.

'He would tell me stories about it being just him and 30 feral cats, in the high desert, in the middle of winter, with the pipes freezing.

'He was only supposed to be there a short while, a few months. He ended up staying a few years.

'He only had books for company. So he had this inflection and vocabulary that was so strange for a regular person. The way that he spoke, it was striking, it took me off guard.

'He was sweet and kind, and seemed a little broken. It was a perfect combination of a man to fall in love with.' 

But Sobelman, a Napa-based esthetician, said at first she struggled with his lack of direction and financial plans, while he roomed with a friend in little more than a closet, or slept in his car. 

'We started dating. He got a part time seasonal job at Whole Foods. The whole thing stressed me out. I needed someone a little more together, who had some ambition,' she said.

'When I met Jered he didn't have any of that. His goal in life was to live in a trailer in the woods. His favorite book is Walden. He wanted a quiet life.'

Jered Standing, (pictured) owner of Standing's Butchery in Hancock Park, was found dead at his home on February 22. The LA county medical examiner ruled that he died by suicide

Jered Standing, (pictured) owner of Standing's Butchery in Hancock Park, was found dead at his home on February 22. The LA county medical examiner ruled that he died by suicide

Speaking to DailyMail.com after his tragic passing, Standing's writer friend Stephanie Hughes (pictured) also described how the 'last few months kicked his a** with stress' – though she thought he could see the light on the other end

Speaking to DailyMail.com after his tragic passing, Standing's writer friend Stephanie Hughes (pictured) also described how the 'last few months kicked his a** with stress' – though she thought he could see the light on the other end

One ex-girlfriend, Karen Palmer (right) who dated Standing during the pandemic, shared a touching post on Instagram paying tribute to the 'very special' butcher

Karen Palmer and Jered Standing

One ex-girlfriend, Karen Palmer (right) who dated Standing during the pandemic, shared a touching  post on Instagram paying tribute to the 'very special' butcher 

Palmer touched on Jered's ability to make her laugh as well as his 'intelligence, compassion' and 'dynamite sense of humor' while urging the public to be 'gentle with one another'

Palmer touched on Jered's ability to make her laugh as well as his 'intelligence, compassion' and 'dynamite sense of humor' while urging the public to be 'gentle with one another' 

They split for a few months, and it was then that he flung himself into butchery.

'I think he used to say to himself, I'm going to prove you wrong,' said Sobelman. 'He got his s**t together.'

She said that after grueling shifts at the supermarket meat department, he would work for free at Hollywood restaurant Salt's Cure, honing his meat preparation skills.

They got back together, and Standing landed his first big break around 2014 with a job at farm-to-table meat merchant Belcampo, where he learned the process of raising high quality cattle humanely.

'It was the beginning of his celebrity, to some extent. He dedicated himself to content and to building his personal brand. He got a lot of attention because he became the face of that business in LA,' Sobelman said.

But he still had demons.

'I jokingly called it the little black box,' Sobelman said. 'It was this place in his mind that he would put emotion and uncomfortable things. He would lock it away so he wouldn't have to deal with it.'

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