Inside Maggie Smith's romance with Beverley Cross: Late actress said she never got over her husband's death - after couple married 23 years following their first meeting

Inside Maggie Smith's romance with Beverley Cross: Late actress said she never got over her husband's death - after couple married 23 years following their first meeting
By: dailymail Posted On: September 28, 2024 View: 158

Maggie Smith has passed away aged 89 years old today - 26 years after the death of her husband Beverley Cross, who she continued to grieve and speak fondly about years on.

The late actress first met the playwright when she was 18, saying that he was 'lovely' and, at 21, 'a bit older'.

He had asked her to marry him and wait while his divorce went through - but in 1967, she had married actor Robert Stephens, with whom Maggie had two sons.

It was 23 years after their first meeting that the Harry Potter star and Beverley finally tied the knot.

They were happy together until 1998, when the screenwriter passed away aged 66.

Maggie Smith has passed away aged 89 years old today - 26 years after the death of her husband Beverley Cross, who she continued to grieve and speak fondly about

Speaking to the Guardian in 2004, Maggie - who had dreamt of him the night before - said: 'I still miss him so much it's ridiculous. People say it gets better but it doesn't. It just gets different, that's all.

'Even in my dream I kept saying to him, "You are dead. You can't be here."'

Maggie told the outlet that her and Beverley's first meeting took place on the steps of the Ashmolean Museum in Oxford.

At the time, she was playing Viola in Twelfth Night at the Oxford Playhouse.

The actress had also joked that it was 'entirely Bev's fault' that she ended up meeting her first husband, Robert, because he had 'made her go to the National Theatre when she had already said no'. 

Maggie and Robert wed in 1967, and within two years had two sons - Christopher, 57, and Toby, 55. 

According to the actress, Laurence Olivier had warned her against a romance with the actor - who had already been married and had a child - but she found him a 'safe' choice.

Maggie admitted she didn't notice how bad her first husband's drinking was for the first few years of their marriage - and it wasn't until 1970, when he attempted to kill himself, that she noticed his issues with mental health.

He had asked her to marry him and wait while his divorce went through - but in 1967, she had married actor Robert Stephens (both pictured), with whom Maggie had two sons
The Oscar-winning actress died in hospital this morning aged 89 after an incredible 70-year acting career. Pictured in 2007

'And after that it was just hopeless. We had two little boys. He didn't understand. I sure as hell didn't understand,' she said.

'It got worse and then it went on getting worse and worse. In the end it was destroying everybody. And he was having so many affairs.' 

By 1973, Maggie left as she 'couldn't go on'. Two years later, her and Beverley were married.

It was 'that lovely man' that helped her raise her two boys, as Robert didn't try to contact her or their sons after.

She once said of him: 'I'm remarkably fortunate. When you meet again someone you should have married in the first place, it's like a script. That kind of luck is too good to be true.'

The actress had also joked that it was 'entirely Bev's fault' that she ended up meeting her first husband, Robert, because he had 'made her go to the National Theatre when she had already said no'. Maggie and Beverley in 1987
Maggie and Robert wed in 1967, and within two years had two sons - Christopher, 57, and Toby, 55. Both pictured in 1972
Pictured: Maggie, Robert and their young son Christopher together in a throwback snap, in Los Angeles
Pictured in their later years: Robert with his wife, Patricia (left), and his ex-wife, Maggie, pictured right
Dame Maggie Smith appears in the 2005 film Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire - one of her most known roles
Dame Maggie Smith arrives for the world premiere of Harry Potter And The Deathly Hallows: Part 2 in London on July 7, 2011

However, she and Robert reconnected by the late 90s - shortly before his death in 1995 - and appeared to be on better terms.

Maggie and Beverley enjoyed their 23-year marriage, and the actress in 2016 told ES Magazine that she 'didn't think she would find anybody who could come anywhere near Bev'.

As reported by the Telegraph, Maggie was on the American talk show 60 minutes in 2013, when she was asked if she was lonely.

'It seems a bit pointless, going on on one's own and not having someone to share it with,' she replied.

People Magazine says the actress also swiftly said 'no way' when questioned about potentially finding someone else. 

The Oscar-winning star died in hospital this morning aged 89 after an incredible 70-year acting career.

Her death has sparked an outpouring of grief from fellow thespians and Harry Potter fans around the world, with Huge Bonneville leading tributes to a 'true legend of her generation'.

A young and glamorous Dame Maggie Smith in the 1976 film Murder By Death which also starred Alec Guinness

The beloved star was best known as Professor Minerva McGonagall in the Harry Potter blockbuster franchise and as Violet Crawley in TV series Downton Abbey.

Her heartbroken sons, Chris Larkin and Toby Stephens, announced 'with great sadness' her death in an emotional statement this afternoon.

They paid tribute to their 'extraordinary' mother, an 'intensely private person' who was 'with friends and family at the end'.

Born in Ilford, Essex, on December 28, 1934, she was an internationally recognised actress for much of her life after playing the fanatical teacher Jean Brodie in The Prime Of Miss Jean Brodie. 

Dame Maggie also won over Harry Potter fans later in life, when she appeared in the film series as the quick-witted, kind and formidable Professor McGonagall.

And in 2010 she was central to the success of ITV series Downton Abbey, in her Emmy-award winning role as the acerbic Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham, which she continued to play in the films.

Her career of more than half a century brought her recognition almost from the beginning, and she received an early Bafta nod for promising newcomer in 1959 for the crime film Nowhere To Go.

This was followed by Bafta nominations for Young Cassidy in 1966, Death On The Nile in 1979, California Suite in 1980, Quartet in 1982, The Secret Garden in 1994, Tea With Mussolini in 2000, Gosford Park in 2002, and The Lady In The Van in 2016.

She also won best actress gongs for The Prime Of Miss Jean Brodie, A Private Function and The Lonely Passion Of Judith Hearne.

Her final roles included The Miracle Club, which follows a group of women from Dublin who go on a pilgrimage to the French town of Lourdes, and 2022's Downton Abbey: A New Era, in which Violet dies. 

Larkin and Stephens, her sons from her first marriage, said in their statement: 'It is with great sadness we have to announce the death of Dame Maggie Smith. She passed away peacefully in hospital early this morning, Friday 27th September.

'An intensely private person, she was with friends and family at the end. She leaves two sons and five loving grandchildren who are devastated by the loss of their extraordinary mother and grandmother. 

'We would like to take this opportunity to thank the wonderful staff at the Chelsea and Westminster Hospital for their care and unstinting kindness during her final days.

'We thank you for all your kind messages and support and ask that you respect our privacy at this time.'

Among the first to pay tribute was her friend Gyles Brandreth , who said: 'The saddest news: the death of Dame Maggie Smith marks the end of a golden era and a quite extraordinary life.

'She was a truly great actress, 'one of the greats' and simply the best company: wise, witty, waspish, wonderful. One of a kind in every way and consequently irreplaceable.'

Maggie Smith alongside Miriam Margolyes, Richard Harris and Alan Rickman in 2002 film Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets
Dame Maggie Smith is made a member of the Order of the Companions of Honour by Queen Elizabeth II during an investiture ceremony at Windsor Castle on October 17, 2014
Dame Maggie Smith attends the 65th Evening Standard Theatre Awards at held at the London Coliseum on November 24, 2019
Dame Maggie Smith pictured at the Evening Standards Drama Awards in London on November 28, 1997

Full statement from Dame Maggie Smith's sons Chris and Toby

Dame Maggie Smith's sons Chris Larkin and Toby Stephens issued the following statement via their publicist:

'It is with great sadness we have to announce the death of Dame Maggie Smith.

'She passed away peacefully in hospital early this morning, Friday 27th September.

'An intensely private person, she was with friends and family at the end. She leaves two sons and five loving grandchildren who are devastated by the loss of their extraordinary mother and grandmother.

'We would like to take this opportunity to thank the wonderful staff at the Chelsea and Westminster Hospital for their care and unstinting kindness during her final days.

'We thank you for all your kind messages and support and ask that you respect our privacy at this time.'

Dame Maggie was one of the most versatile, accomplished and meticulous actresses of her generation, her repertoire ranging from Shakespeare to character parts in Harry Potter. 

She was a performer of contrasts, with an astonishing capacity to switch imperceptibly from radiance to melancholy, from quiet to boisterous, from graciousness to mischief within seconds.

Although she was a tour de force in leading roles on the West End stage, she was equally happy - even during the years of her mega-stardom - to accept supporting roles, particularly in films.

Truly professional and as near a perfectionist as she could be, she treated these roles with as much detailed and careful attention as she did her major parts.

Probably her greatest triumph was in The Prime Of Miss Jean Brodie, for which she won her first Oscar.

But, Dame Maggie - she was made a DBE in 1990 - was self-deprecating about her abilities.

Her family background gave no indication that she would not only enter the acting profession but also become one of its leading exponents.

She said she had wanted, from childhood, to become an actress, but she did not see a play or a film until she was a teenager.

Nor did she receive much encouragement from her family, particularly one of her grandmothers, who remarked that she could not go into acting 'with a face like that'. But none of this deterred her from her ambition.

She was educated at Oxford High School for Girls and later the Oxford Playhouse School, and first appeared on the stage as a girl of 18 in Twelfth Night.

Ralph Fiennes presents Dame Maggie Smith with a Bafra award for Best Supporting Actress for the film 'Tea With Mussolini' at the Odeon Leicester Square in London on April 9, 2000
Dame Maggie Smith and Dame Judi Dench during rehearsals for their play 'The Breath of Life' at the Theatre Royal Haymarket in London on October 9, 2002
Dame Maggie Smith arriving for a Royal Film Performance of Ladies In Lavender at the Odeon Leicester Square in London on November 8, 2004

She made an early mark in revues, as a singer and dancer. One fan who saw her on Broadway in New Faces of '56, said he laughed so much he ended up banging his head on the seat in front of him.

She was spotted by Laurence Olivier, who saw her as much more than just a vaudeville performer and invited her to join the newly-formed Royal National Theatre Company in London.

There, and at the Old Vic, she excelled in both tragedy and comedy, moving easily from Shakespeare to Noel Coward, to Restoration comedy to Ibsen.

As a 'rep' actress, she was able to develop her incredible range, skill and talent among some of Britain's best actors, including Robert Stephens, who was to become her first husband. They married in 1967 but divorced in 1974.

The film industry began to recognise her abilities and she was given several supporting roles.

Dame Maggie Smith and Dame Judi Dench arriving at the Theatre Royal Haymarket in London on December 9, 2001
Queen Elizabeth II being presented to Dame Maggie Smith by Sir Laurence Olivier, when the Queen attended the charity premiere of the film Othello at the Odeon Theatre in London, on May 2, 1966
Dame Maggie Smith and Paul Scofield at London's Hilton Hotel where they picked up their awards from the Variety Club of Great Britain at it's 35th Annual showbusiness awards luncheon on February 3, 1987
Dame Maggie Smith arriving for the world premiere of Harry Potter And The Deathly Hallows: Part 2 on July 7, 2011

But she first emerged as an international star with her virtuoso performance as the fanatical teacher Jean Brodie in The Prime Of Miss Jean Brodie. 

Even in smaller roles she could upstage the film 'giants'. In one film, Richard Burton described her scene-stealing as 'grand larceny'.

Dame Maggie won over a whole new generation of fans when she played Professor McGonagall in the Harry Potter films.

In 2010 she was central to the success of ITV series Downton Abbey, in her Emmy-award winning role as the acerbic Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham.

But she later told ES Magazine: 'I am deeply grateful for the work in (Harry) Potter and indeed Downton (Abbey) but it wasn't what you'd call satisfying.

'I didn't really feel I was acting in those things.'

Dame Maggie Smith kisses Rupert Grint as they arrive for the world premiere of Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince at the Odeon Leicester Square in London on July 7, 2009
Dame Maggie Smith arriving at the premiere of Gosford Park at the Ziegfield theatre in New York City n December 14, 2001
Jill Bennett, Tom Jones and Maggie Smith (left to right) with their silver hearts showbusiness awards from the Variety Club of Great Britain at the Savoy Hotel in London on March 11, 1969

Her numerous awards also covered her performances in Tea With Mussolini, A Room With A View, A Private Function and The Lonely Passion Of Judith Hearne.

Dame Maggie won a best actress Oscar for the role in 1970.

Other film roles include her portrayal of a drunken Oscar loser in California Suite, the dying older lover in Love, Pain And The Whole Damn Thing, the tragic lodger in The Lonely Passion Of Judith Hearne, and the so-called 'funny old bat' in Gosford Park, which brought her a sixth Oscar nomination.

She starred alongside Dame Judi Dench in the 2004 film Ladies In Lavender, and on stage in the David Hare play The Breath Of Life.

One of her most famous roles was as a bag lady in The Lady In The Van, the 2015 adaptation of Alan Bennett's memoirs.

She recently starred in the 2022's Downton Abbey: A New Era, where Violet's health deteriorates and she dies in an emotional end to her character.

The next year, she appeared in The Miracle Club, which follows a group of women from Dublin who go on a pilgrimage to the French town of Lourdes.

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Dame Maggie Smith's two sons followed in her footsteps by taking up careers as actors.

The British acting legend, who passed away this morning aged 89, was known for prominent roles in Harry Potter and Downton Abbey, and her performance in The Prime Of Miss Jean Brodie.

It was her  beloved sons who broke the devastating news to the world.  

Chris Larkin and Toby Stephens, praised her as an 'extraordinary mother and grandmother' in their moving tribute to the acting icon.

Their message made it clear that they remained close to their mother throughout her final days. 

And the family clearly had much in common, with both Chris and Toby going on to forge acting careers of their own - admittedly with little help from their mother in doing so. 

Maggie was close to her two children, whom she shared with first husband Robert Stephens, and five grandchildren - and the family were united in their shared love for acting. 

Maggie Smith with her son Christopher Larkin. The acting legend passed away this morning aged 89 (pictured in 2010)
English actress Maggie Smith (L) with her son, actor Toby Stephens, in a dressing room at the Barbican Theatre in May 1994

They wrote in a statement this afternoon: 'It is with great sadness we have to announce the death of Dame Maggie Smith. She passed away peacefully in hospital early this morning, Friday 27th September.

'An intensely private person, she was with friends and family at the end. She leaves two sons and five loving grandchildren who are devastated by the loss of their extraordinary mother and grandmother.

'We would like to take this opportunity to thank the wonderful staff at the Chelsea and Westminster Hospital for their care and unstinting kindness during her final days.

'We thank you for all your kind messages and support and ask that you respect our privacy at this time.'

She was described by her sons as a 'real softie' as a grandmother, and 'really loved' being around her family.  

Her sons are famous figures in their own right.

Chris starred as Richard Brown on Outlander, while Toby played John Robinson in Netflix's Lost In Space and the title character in The Great Gatsby (2000).

He is currently starring as Greek god Poseidon in Percy Jackson and the Olympians. 

But the most famous role of all came when Toby starred as a James Bond villain in Die Another Day in 2002.  

However, it was done with little help from their famous mother.  

Toby told The Guardian in 2013: 'My parents didn't particularly encourage me initially. 

'They knew how hard the profession is: just because they'd been successful didn't mean I would.

English actress Maggie Smith with her two children, Chris Larkin (left) and Toby Stephens, at London Airport, March 1971
Toby Stephens as James Bond villain Gustav Graves in Die Another Day

'They said, "You're on your own." I'm really grateful: It made me get out there and hone my taste.'

But if anyone had hoped to see the family together on screen, they could think again. 

Toby, 55, certainly had no intention of working together on Downton Abbey, explaining: 'I have a policy with my mum — we both kind of think that the family acting thing is a bit naff.

'I cringe when I see that someone obviously thought, 'Hey, we're both actors, why don't we do something together?''

Maggie's elder son, Chris, was born on June 19, 1967, and chose to drop 'Stephens' from his name to forge an acting career in his own right.

Chris, 57, lives in London with his wife Suki and their children.

Despite being born into a family of actors, he only decided to take it up him in his early 20s. 

But he's clearly been successful, even joining the cast of Outlander in season five.

Maggie's younger son, Toby, was born two years later in 1969.

Chris Larkin and Mark Lewis Jones in Outlander
Toby in Netflix show Lost in Space - one of his many acting ventures
Chris Larkin attends the press night after party for
Toby Stephens attends the 'Lost In Space' Season 1 Premiere in 2018

His parents split up when he was only four, meaning he spent much of his childhood travelling round to where his mother was working.

Toby told the Mail's Weekend Magazine in 2012: 'Growing up I went to many schools and I had to fit in to many different types of environments with totally different social groups.'

He too began an acting career, graduating from LAMDA in 1991.

 In 1994, he played the title character in the Royal Shakespeare Company's performance of Coriolanus.

Despite his early promise, Toby was also known to struggle at times, previously admitting to going on 24-hour drinking benders.

He admitted: 'Giving up alcohol is the best choice I have ever made. If I had carried on drinking, I wouldn't be here, I wouldn't have my kids. I feel incredibly lucky.'

Stephens is the youngest person to have played a Bond villain, starring as Gustav Graves in Die Another Day.

He also won over fans as Jane Eyre's lover Mr Rochester and the evil Prince John in Robin Hood.

Maggie pictured with her second husband Beverley Cross in 1986 and Chris and Toby
He also won over fans as Jane Eyre's lover Mr Rochester and the evil Prince John in Robin Hood

Toby has been married to Anna-Louise Plowman since 2001, and the couple share three children: son Eli Alistair and daughters Tallulah and Kura.

The couple met during his time at LAMDA and got together when they both went up for the same voiceover part in New York.

Speaking about Dame Maggie's role as a grandmother, he told Weekend Magazine: 'She loves, really loves, being around them. She was stern with me but around them she is a real softie. 

'That's the privilege of being a grandparent — they can indulge the children while parents have to be the bad guy. Grandparents can also be subversive and naughty with them. And she certainly is.' 

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