By Ian Randall For Mailonline
Published: 12:33 BST, 16 October 2020 | Updated: 12:54 BST, 16 October 2020
Little rituals like weekly date nights or having Sunday dinner with the parents are what dating couples use to decide whether to marry — not grand romantic gestures.
Researchers from the US interviewed dating couples and found that regular, shared experiences are key in allowing partners to get to know each other better.
In contrast, romantic getaways and expensive presents may be exciting — but they offer couples less chance to tell whether they want to spend their life with someone.
In contrast, recurring events like movie nights present twosomes with opportunities to witness each other's everyday habits and behaviours.
Little rituals like weekly date nights or having Sunday dinner with the parents are what dating couples use to decide whether to marry — not grand romantic gestures
In their study, human development researcher Chris Maniotes of the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign and colleagues surveyed 58 couples in the southwest of the US who had been dating for an average of two-and-a-half years.
The team found that those couples who took part in rituals and routines saw their commitment to marriage rise or fall as a result.
Rituals could be once a year events — such as Christmas, Easter or other holidays — or weekly practices, such as Sunday lunch with a partner's parents or making Friday evenings 'movie night', the researchers explained.
'Rituals have the power to bond individuals and give us a preview into family life and couple life,' Mr Maniotes explained.
'We found they help magnify normative relationship experiences,' he added
'Rituals provide a unique time to review one's partner and relationship; you get to see a host of behaviours and interactions that might normally be obscured.'
'Some of the ways rituals affected commitment to wed with these couples was by altering their view of their partner, giving them a new perspective.'
In some cases, this meant that couples found common bonds that strengthened their relationship — or, alternatively, revealed areas of conflict that indicated that they were not suited to a life-long commitment to